Topic Tuesday - Biggest challenge as a wife and mother

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Oh my, what a question! Lets be honest here, I have tons of struggles! I think the one that gets me the most is probably poor time management. I'm a huge procrastinator and now that I'm not working outside of the home I think its gotten worse! I think that having a "real" job almost makes you be organized. Now instead of being prepared for the next day I tell myself, "oh I'll just do it tomorrow!" Then tomorrow comes and the laundry is still sitting on the floor, the clean dishes are still in the dishwasher, and Bentley's spit-up is still caked into my hair (sexy I know)! The problem I feel is that it leaves my husband to pick up the slack which I don't think is quite fair. He already works 10hr+ days and then to come home to a tornado makes me feel like a loser jerk pathetic failure bad wife. He never complains because I married a saint but I know it's something I need to work on. Maybe some of you can relate!

 

 

Guilt.

I beat myself up all the time.

I feel guilty when:

I have to tell her “not right now, mommy’s working.”

I don’t make playing with her a priority that day.

I want to scream at her to stop asking “why?” over and over again.

I lose my patience.

I get annoyed with her just doing things kids do.

She begs me to play pretend princesses and that is the last thing in the world I want to be doing.

I am playing with her and my mind is elsewhere. She can tell and I bet it hurts.

I tune her out and just nod ok instead of really listening to the stories she is telling me.

The thought of just running away for a few days sounds oh so appealing sometimes.

Naptime and bedtime is what I live for some days.

I take the easy way out.

I let her watch another show instead of engaging her in an activity.

I cannot stand to hear one. more. whiny. word. and I say something unkind to her in response.

I focus on the girls all day and forget to give him any attention at all.

I disrespect him.

I refuse to apologize first.
I am doing chores with bitterness in my heart instead of love.

 

The hardest part for me about being a mom and wife is remembering to pay attention to my husband and our marriage. I tend to think of myself first and foremost as a mom now, and spend 99% of my time focusing on the babe. By the end of the day, many times, my patience is worn thin and I'm anything but kind and loving when the hubbs gets home from work. Gentle words have been replaced with lists of urgent to-dos and frustrations. Many times I will push to hurry home from a family outing just for nap time, even if getting out is a breath of fresh air for our marriage. My prayer is for balance in our lives so that I can more effectively be a wife and mother.